Trusting in God's Will...and His timing...

Originally written on April 20, 2013

I had a conversation with someone today about the world and marriage.  It's an odd combo, but I think that it's important to take a look at what is going on here.  The person I was talking to informed me that after generically expressing to a friend her desire to get married, the friend informed her, "I don't think you are quite ready yet."  Wow!  That's a throwback!  I bet that guy was totally prepared for walking down the aisle!  Rightfully so, she was very upset.  Not only was it totally inappropriate given that this person, to whom I am very close, is one of the most mature, amazing, and loving people I know.  But her friend who told her this actually knows very little about her.  

Now, being that I am not married nor have I ever been, I might be wrong when I say that I don't think it has anything to do with "being ready".  At least if it does it has nothing to do with any human being's (currently existing on earth) definition of what "being ready" means.  I have seen plenty of people who I thought were not "ready" for marriage actually get married.  They are doing just fine.  There is no formula for it.  So forgive me when I say that it's a bit judgmental to say that one is not "ready" for marriage.  It's all up to God's will and His timing to bring that person into your life.  And here's the bottom line:  You have to trust Him! 

In the world, I feel people are uncomfortable with my own singleness.  It's like they are bothered by the fact that I'm single.  I can't figure out why it bothers them.  Could it be that it's kind of a scary prospect to know that one can desire something like marriage and family, but never see that dream come to fruition?  What does that mean for them?  Does it mean that there can be something in their hearts, which they desire intensely, but they may not ever see the fulfillment of that desire?  Yes...it does.  Because, honestly, the point is not being married, being single, or fulfilling our dreams.  The point is trusting in God through the good and the bad.  

The grass is definitely not greener on the other side either.  I'm so grateful for the married friends in my life.  They help keep me grounded in my search for my future spouse.  It's futile to look for a fairy tale.  There are going to be trials and difficult things to deal with along the way.  Whether we are single or married, we all have our struggles and no one struggle is greater than another.  God calls us all to trust him with our entire lives.  

I would like to say, "I've got this down".  The reality is...I don't.  It is a daily battle, just as it is for the rest of humanity.  Trusting God with my life means that ANYTHING goes.  ANYTHING could happen.  Obviously, I can't control that.  No, I would much rather fence God in and tell Him, "You can work here, but don't go outside these boundaries."  The sad part is, he listens to us.  He will always respect our boundaries and decisions.  He is a good, merciful, and loving being, he would never cross the line.  

So, today I challenge you to consider whether or not you are fencing God in.  Honestly, what is the worst that could happen if you gave him free reign over your life?  We have a God who loves us beyond all human comprehension and who wants to give us the desires of our hearts.  I'm not promising that all of your dreams will come true or your plans won't fail.  But I am promising you that a God who is bigger than your dreams and plans with dreams and plans of His own for your life will never disappoint you.

Lord Jesus I trust in you!